• Lately in Books, Tea, & Geekery
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    Lately in Books, Tea, & Geekery

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    I love the brevity of a month-in-review kind of post– the ones where bloggers share the podcasts/albums/books/events/video games they consumed recently but without an accompanying thousand-word analysis of the experience. I used to compose posts like this (read: Five March Favorites), but I am so, so terrible at sticking to structured content calendars. So, here is my latest attempt at a (probably, almost definitely, unregular) feature. Here are the books, tea, and geekery I have enjoyed lately:

    Books

    Can’t Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation by Anne Helen Petersen

    Can’t Even critiques the the systems many Millennials were born into like the college-at-all-costs pipeline, social media-driven lifestyle curation, and the burden of invisible labor nearly all mothers carry even in (especially in?) the year of our Lord, 2024. Petersen’s strongest chapters discussed the “enshittification” of the workplace by examining labor theory and history since the 1970s.

    I would be enraged after reading this book, but I’ve read it all before. If you’re a Millennial, who exists at all online, you’ve probably read the arguments before, too. Nevertheless, Can’t Even is relatable, and the book satisfies the craving for confirmation bias.

    My biggest critique of this book is the author’s declaration that Millenials are the “burnout generation”. She then dispels that notion in the first chapter by arguing burnout is a state of existence we inherited from our Boomer parents. Which I agree with, by the way! I don’t think Millenials have a monopoly on burnout, and I think trying to imply that only invites the generational infighting I’m so tired of reading about.

    The Best American Essays 2023 edited by Vivian Gornick

    I love essays. I think I secretly want to be an essayist. It’s probably why I’ve always been drawn to blogs and blogging, which seem like informal essays [this post is not an essay]. Essays take my favorite approach to storytelling (nonfiction) and turn it bite-sized, conveying complex ideas concisely. (How appropriate that The Best American Essays 2023 includes a meditation on concision by George Estreich).

    I’m only halfway through, but I’ve already read a few memorable essays. Any Kind of Leaving by Jillian Barnet shatters the usual savior-like portrayal of adoption, and this essay almost made me cry. We Were Hungry by Chris Dennis is a brutal, sort-of-love-letter to McDonald’s from an ex-addict. Ms. Daylily by Xujun Eberlein is an achingly intimate story about a daughter trying to piece together her mother’s relationship with another woman during Mao’s reign and the Cultural Revolution in China.

    This anthology also feels like it will be a time capsule for future generations with essays about gender identity, the prison system, and the immigrant experience in the United States. It makes me curious to read earlier books from this series (started in 1986) to see if earlier editors managed to curate a collection of work that embodies the year it was published, too.

    New Kid by Jerry Craft

    Some of the best graphic novels I’ve read in recent years have come from the Middle-Grade section of the local library, and New Kid by Jerry Craft now gets added to this growing list. New Kid follows Jordan, a Black middle schooler who wants to attend art school but is enrolled in a rigorously academic private school instead. At his new school, Jordan confronts bullying, classism, code-switching, and microaggressions as he struggles to find his place among peers who do not look like him.

    The characters and the friendships that develop between them are delightful. The book was laugh-out-loud funny. And, I loved the playfulness of the chapter title illustrations, which were inspired by popular films like the Lord of the Rings, Rocky Horror Picture Show, and Star Wars.

    Tea

    A few Sunday’s ago, a surprise from the good folks at Plum Deluxe arrived on my doorstep– this World of Tea care package inspired by France, which includes five curated blends from their shop and five blends exclusive to this sampler. I’m looking forward to sipping through this collection, but I think I need to acquire some croissants first. Especially for the Cafe Breakfast Blend, which is infused with coffee beans.

    The tea featured in my favorite Pragon teacup above is the Huckleberry Happiness blend, a random sample included with the care package. It’s a fruity black tea blend that pairs well with sunny mornings filled with birdsong.

    Geekery

    Citizen Sleeper

    Citizen Sleeper is the cozy, slice-of-life cyberpunk video game I didn’t know I needed in my life. I am obsessed with the artwork, the soundtrack, the story, the wholesome characters like Lem & Mina, the gameplay– everything!

    This game follows a “sleeper”, a digitized human mind encapsulated in an artificial body, who escaped their old life of indentured servitude to Essen-Arp Corp. As the story opens, the sleeper has sought refuge on a lawless space station called the Eye. There, the sleeper meets a colorful cast of characters, builds friendships, navigates factions, and ultimately tries to survive and rebuild their life among a hyper-capitalist, interstellar society.

    Citizen Sleeper is a text-based game that functions like a Tabletop RPG, where payers “spend” dice to drive the story forward, complete actions, and determine outcomes of choices. It’s sort of like a virtual choose-your-own-adventure story with several different endings, so I’m already looking forward to replaying this game.

    Open Roads

    In Open Roads, gamers play the role of sixteen-year-old Tess, who has just discovered a secret stash of love letters tucked away in the attic of her grandmother’s house after her grandmother passed away. Tess convinces her mother to go on a road trip to discover how deep these family secrets are buried.

    Wikipedia tells me this is a “walking simulator”. Players can navigate a scene and interact with the environment to reveal more of the story. It’s a low-stakes (no-stakes?) video game that had me hooked because 1. it’s set in the early 2000s, so it’s satisfying the craving for nostalgia, and 2. it takes place in Michigan, my home state!

    It’s a very short video game; players can probably complete it in an evening. But, after solving the mystery surrounding the grandmother’s secret love letters, I kept hoping Tess would try to discover the secret stash of bootleggers gold, which was a topic that surfaced throughout the story. Open Roads left me wanting more, but in a good way, I think. The story was compelling enough, the characters were charming, and the gameplay was calming, so I just wanted to keep playing.

    Skyrim

    I am a creature of habit, so I’m usually just replaying a handful of games (Dragon Age, Mass Effect, Fallout, Elder Scrolls, Stardew Valley), and lately, I’ve been devoting my time to Skyrim. In this open world, action roleplaying game, players explore Skyrim, the northernmost region of the continent of Tamriel, by navigating the politics of a region divided by civil war, joining factions, slaying dragons and draugr, and delving into dungeons to discover valuable loot. (It seems strange to summarize this game since it’s so iconic).

    I’ve had this game since it was released in 2011, and I’ve never completed the main storyline(s). I’ll sink 40 hours into a character then take a break for a few months. When I return, I forget what I’m doing and just start a new character with a new play style. Lately, I’ve been playing as a mage. I recently finished the College of Winterhold questline, and I’m now working on the Dawnguard questline, but I don’t love this playstyle, and I already want to start a new character. I started a new sneak thief character. Why am I the way that I am?

    Have you enjoyed some books, tea, or geekery recently, too? Let me know in the comments!

  • 7 Graphic Novels I Can’t Stop Thinking About
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    7 Graphic Novels I Can’t Stop Thinking About

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    A few years ago, I plucked an unsuspecting graphic novel from a shelf at the library–The Sacrifice of Darkness by Roxanne Gay, Tracy Lynne Oliver, Rebecca Kirby, and James Fenner. I remember this graphic novel being solidly okay, but it encouraged me to actively seek out graphic novels going forward. Now I bring one home after every library visit. They are mostly middle-grade or young adult books since that’s what is immediately available to me at my local library, but they are nevertheless incredible. Some have even made me weep! Here are 7 graphic novels I’ve read in the last year (and a half?) that I cannot stop thinking about:

    This was Our Pact by Ryan Andrews

    On the night of the Autumn Equinox Festival, a town gathers to float paper lanterns down the river. Legend has it, the lanterns will float away and right out to the Milky Way. This year, Ben and his classmates make a pact to follow the lanterns to find out if the legend is true. However, it’s not long before the pact is broken, and all who remain are Ben and the one kid who doesn’t quite fit in, Nathaniel. Together, they travel farther than anyone has gone before, and along the way, they discover a world full of magic and unexpected friendship.

    This Was Our Pact was delightful. It was magical. It was whimsical. It had a talking bear! And the whole time I thought, this world could come to life in a Hayao Miyazaki film. The artwork was stunning, too. Like, you could open up the book to the illustration of the Milky Way, and the page could just swallow you up like the sky.

    Squire by Sara Alfageeh and Nadia Shammas

    Aiza has always dreamed of being a knight; it’s the highest military honor of the Bayt-Sajji Empire, and it’s her only path to full citizenship as a member of the marginalized Ornu people. When Bayt-Sajji finds itself on the brink of war, Aiza enlists. She navigates new friendships and rigorous training all while hiding her Ornu background from her friends and superiors. She also learns that the Bayt-Sajji military might not be fighting for the greater good after all, forcing her to choose between her heritage and her loyalty to the empire.

    Lately, I feel as though I’ve abandoned YA books because the authors I’ve picked up struggle to address social issues well. The stories often feel stilted or like the author is just reiterating a talking point they read on social media. It feels cringey and vaguely Afterschool Special-esque. But, I think the thing that impressed me most about Squire was its ability to address complex themes like propaganda, imperialism, colonialism, and minority identity under a conquering empire without sacrificing rich storytelling. Also, the story features badass girls with swords, which is always awesome.

    Incredible Doom: Volume 1 by Matthew Bogart and Jesse Holden

    Simply, Incredible Doom is about outcast teens finding refuge from abusive parents and acceptance from peers after being bullied at a new school through the bulletin board system of the early ’90s (sort of a precursor to the modern internet). Plus, it has a punk house, 90’s DIY aesthetic, and some wonderful Star Trek geekery!

    Even though I didn’t have internet access at home until the late 1990s and didn’t experience BBS, this graphic novel made me feel so nostalgic for the internet of yesteryear. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this book and the early days of personal websites since.

    Ducks: Two Years in the Oil Sands by Kate Beaton

    Kate Beaton narrates her experience working in the oil sands of Alberta, where she is one of a few women among thousands of men, in this graphic novel memoir.

    This is probably the only book on this list that doesn’t target a YA or middle-grade audience and pheeew! This book was heavy. I went into reading this book thinking it was going to be about the environmental impact of the oil sands, and the author does touch on it. But, it was more about the cultural and human impact of living in an insular and isolated community.

    As a woman, Beaton dealt with sexual harassment and sexual assault. She doesn’t excuse these actions but still manages to hold compassion for many of her male co-workers, who are complicit in perpetuating a toxic and dangerous environment for women. Ultimately, the men were victims of the oil sands too. Without access to mental health resources, pervasive loneliness and depression permeated their lives as they spent years away from families and communities outside of work camps or watched corporate bosses sweep the accidental deaths of oil sand workers under the rug because they were viewed as expendable. Ducks is a devastating, empathetic, and nuanced portrayal of just how badly the environment and human lives were exploited to churn out a corporate profit.

    P.S. Don’t skip the afterword. Beaton addresses her assault more directly here, and it provides much more context on how it was treated in the graphic novel. It helped me process some of the emotions that surfaced as I read this story.

    Laura Dean Keeps Breaking Up with Me by Mariko Tamaki and Rosemary Valero-O’Connell

    Freddy Riley’s world revolves around her girlfriend, Laura Dean. Laura is cool and popular and exciting, but she’s also a jerk who only seems to use Freddy when she’s bored. Freddy’s self-esteem and friendships are suffering because of it, so Freddy is trying to figure out how to ditch Laura once and for all.

    I found this coming-of-age story absorbing, but the thing that sticks with me after all this time is the artwork. The illustrations are inked simply in black and white with the occasional use of pink. It was beautiful, absolutely striking.

    This One Summer by Mariko Tamaki and Jillian Tamaki

    On the surface, This One Summer is about Rose and her annual summer vacation at Awago Beach. This summer is different though because Rose’s parents keep fighting. Luckily, Rose’s friend Windy is at the beach too, and together they find ways to distract themselves from family drama.

    Below the surface, This One Summer is a quiet novel about a girl teetering on the cusp of adolescence. It’s about leaving the freedom and naivety of childhood behind and learning to navigate the tumultuous world of pre-teen/teenage girlhood. It’s changing bodies and pushing boundaries and noticing boys. It’s also about all the ways we learn to form opinions of ourselves as girls based on how the world around us (men and boys in particular, but also the media we consume and other women harboring internalized misogyny), reacts to our existence. Girlhood (and womanhood) is such a powerful experience, but sometimes it is a profoundly devastating experience, and it was captured here within the pages of This One Summer. And by God, this book made me weep.

    There are two stories I think of that capture the essence of being a preteen girl so perfectly: Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret by Judy Blume (which I read as an actual preteen) and now This One Summer by Mariko and Jillian Tamaki (which I read as an adult and through the lens of being a mother). It was absolutely brilliant.

    On A Sunbeam by Tillie Walden

    Throughout the deepest reaches of space, a crew rebuilds broken-down structures to reassemble the past. As the newest crew member, Mia gets to know her team, the story flashes back to her time in boarding school, where she first fell in love. Soon, Mia reveals her purpose for joining the crew was to track down her long-lost love.

    On a Sunbeam is a warm blanket. There is so much love between these pages it soothes my soul. First, it is in the form of Sapphic relationships, especially between Mia and her first love, Grace. When Grace is suddenly ripped from Mia’s life, Mia attempts to defy the vastness of the entire. friggin. universe. just to find her again. Second, it is in the form of a found family– the crew Mia connects with to rebuild abandoned buildings in space.

    Beyond the storytelling, Tillie Walden’s illustrations are stunning, and her artwork is among my favorites. Her artwork in Are You Listening? is pretty incredible too.

    P.S. You can read On a Sunbeam online for free here.

  • Teas to Sip While Reading  Dragon Age: The Stolen Throne by David Gaider
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    Teas to Sip While Reading Dragon Age: The Stolen Throne by David Gaider

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    I am obsessed with the Dragon Age video game series. Like, replay-the-video-games-every-year obsessed. Like, check-for-Dreadwolf-updates-every-other-month-even-though-I-know-there-are-no-new-updates obsessed. Like, would-buy-all-the-Dragon-Age-collectibles-if-I-did’t-have-to-be-responsible-with-money obsessed.

    Dragon Age is a fantasy role-playing video game series that takes place on the continent of Thedas. The video games focus on the events that take place during the 100 years of the Dragon Age:

    • from the story of the Grey Wardens, who defeated the horde of twisted Dark Spawn during the Fifth Blight
    • to the growing unrest between the mages of the Free Marches city-state and their militant handlers, the Templars
    • to the re-creation of the Inquisition, an independent political and military organization trying to restore order to Thedas following an explosion at the Divine Conclave that resulted in the death of the leader of the Orleasian Chantry (their church, if you will) and a tear in the veil that allows demons to escape from the Fade (a magical realm) into the world (phew!). And, they must do this while navigating a world torn apart by the Mage-Templar War and an Orlesian Civil War.

    Beyond the current video games, there are books, comics, flash games, tabletop RPGs, web series, a movie, and a Netflix animation. The world is immersive. And, rumor has it, there is to be a full reveal of Dreadwolf in 2024. (But, who knows. I feel like Bioware has been teasing us about DA4 since 2018).

    I’ve never anticipated the release of a game this much, so I had the brilliant idea to read and play through as many of the 34 Dragon Age installments I can get my hands on in chronological order for my “canon playthrough”. (Okay, as I admit this to the world, my plan sounds more bonkers than brilliant, but I think other passionate fans of the series would understand.)

    The Book

    And so it begins with Dragon Age: the Stolen Throne by David Gaider. The events in this novel take place 30 years before the 1st video game, Dragon Age: Origins. In fact, it takes place before the actual “Dragon” Age. The novel opens with the country of Ferelden under occupation by the neighboring Orlesian Empire. The Rebel Queen of Ferelden, who has been fighting against Orlais, is murdered by traitorous, Fereldan nobles, but her son, Prince Maric survives.

    Fleeing from his mother’s assassins, Prince Maric runs into a band of outlaws led by Loghain (who Dragon Age fans will recognize as the antagonist from Dragon Age: Origins). The two reluctantly team up, reunite with the Rebel Army, and fight to expel the usurper Orlesian King of Ferelden. Of course, no Dragon Age story would be complete without the threat of villainous mages, a foreboding visit from the Witch of the Wilds, morally ambiguous Chantry leaders, and passionate romances between companions in between brutal battles for the future of Ferelden.

    I give it a solid…TWO STARS.

    The Stolen Throne was both too short for the story Gaider wanted to tell and too long for the story that was delivered. The author stuffed several years of story into 400 pages, so naturally, some elements of good storytelling were sacrificed. Gaider spared readers several years of redundant battles by summarizing a year of war into a few paragraphs. But, this also meant that crucial character development and relationship building were glossed over, and arguably, the characters, the interpersonal drama, and the dialogue between them is what makes the Dragon Age series so special.

    In the end, I would only recommend this book to folks who really embrace the fandom. I’m not sure there is enough here to keep even a casual player enticed. And forget it if you’ve never played a game before. So much of the world-building was lacking, so without prior knowledge of the world of Thedas, the Stolen Throne reads a bit like a generic sword and shield fantasy novel.

    The Teas

    Shou pu'erh in teacup

    Your Favorite Shou Pu’erh

    The Fereldans are a puzzle. As a people, they are one bad day away from reverting to barbarism. They repelled invasions from Tevinter during the height of the Imperium with nothing but dogs and their own obstinate disposition. They are the coarse, wilful, dirty, disorganized people who somehow gave rise to our prophet, ushered in an era of enlightenment, and toppled the greatest empire in our history.

    – Empress Celine I of Orlais, in a letter to her newly appointed ambassador to Denerim

    The Dragon Age continent of Thedas is an amalgamation of cultures and civilizations in Eurasia spanning from the Early Middle Ages to the Early Modern Period. Ferelden, the setting for the Stolen Throne, seems to resemble the period following the Anglo-Saxon conquest of England– not quite “barbaric” but not yet as opulent as Orlais or Tevinter. Not opulent at all, actually. It’s rural and dirty and always on the verge of battle against darkspawn or neighboring Orlais, and really I just imagine most people smell of wet mabari (a breed of war dog revered by Fereldans).

    And so, for my first tea, I suggest your favorite shou pu’erh. For the uninitiated, shou pu’erh is a fermented tea that, to me, is akin to licking a wet forest floor in the middle of Autumn, but in a good way. (Usually. I had a shou that tasted like how the animal pens at the county farm smelled, and that ended up down the drain. But, honestly, that sounds perfect for Ferelden, too). I sipped Pu-erh #1 from Friday Afternoon Tea, which is an undaunting introduction to pu’erh. It offers aromas of earth, wet wood, and dry leaves. (It appears this tea is no longer available, but check out more aged teas from Friday Afternoon here.)


    Black Tea Blend in Teacup

    Soldier’s Blend from Friday Afternoon Tea

    Loghain glanced uncomfortably at the knights who had been assigned to his command, once again wondering just how he had allowed himself to end up here. Thirty mounted men in heavy plate armor, each with more combat experience in the last year than he had in his life, and he was supposed to lead them?

    the Stolen Throne by David Gaider

    Picked simply for its name, the Soldier’s Blend from Friday Afternoon Tea is a blend of black tea, chicory root, cacao nib, and natural vanilla flavor. It’s reminiscent of a dark chocolate bar with a pop of tangy acid. I prefer to sip this one sweetened to draw out the creamy vanilla notes and to tame the dark chocolate flavor (I’m a milk chocolate girlie).


    Herbal Tea blend in teacup

    Shield Maiden from Friday Afternoon Tea

    The knight sheathed his sword. Reaching up to his helmet, he pulled it off, and Loghain realized the man’s voice had sounded strange because it wasn’t a man at all. Masses of thick brown curls were plastered against the woman’s sweaty pale skin, yet Loghain found it didn’t mar her striking appearance. She had high cheekbones and a strong chin that a sculptor would have ached for, yet carried herself with a confidence that told him the armor was no affectation. She was as much a soldier as the men she led, and while it was not unheard of in Ferelden for a woman to be skilled in the art of war, it was uncommon enough to be surprising.

    the Stolen Throne by David Gaider

    Rowan is easily my favorite character. She is betrothed to Prince Maric and will someday be Queen of Ferelden. But, in the meantime, she charges headfirst into battle alongside her army to win back the throne stolen by Orlais. Her story is part honor, duty, and total badassery, but it is also part unrequited love, which wrecks me every single time. She should have been the main character.

    Rowan kind of reminds me of Eowyn from the Lord of the Rings, so to honor Rowan, I’ve selected Shield Maiden from Friday Afternoon Tea, which is a blend of elderflower, pink peppercorn, roasted dandelion root, ginkgo biloba, cacao nib, and shavegrass. This golden-like-the-sun brew has a thick, luscious mouthfeel and it offers aromas of dried grass and dried wildflowers. There is also a soft heat from the pink peppercorns.


    Rose-infused Earl Grey in Teacup

    Your Favorite Rose-Infused Blend

    Delicate to the nose, comfort to the tongue, and, strangely, a half-remembered whisper to the ears. It is described as—and inspires—a wistful spirit. A vintner’s opus.

    Dragon Age codex entry on the tasting notes for Vint-9 Rowan’s Rose

    No Dragon Age story is complete without romance. (Except for Dragon Age 2. My headcanon Hawke only has eyes for Varric, who is not one of the game’s love interests :( and yes I am still bitter about this.) In The Stolen Throne, we get a double-whammy of unrequited love. ~*~spoilers!~*~ Loghain pines for Rowan who pines for Maric who has been promised to Rowan but pines for Katriel. sigh.

    For the final tea, I suggest your favorite rose-infused blend. To sweep me off my feet, I sipped the Orlesian Gray from Lady Gray Kitchen. It’s a citrusy Earl Grey blended with rose, lavender, and rosemary. As an added bonus, this particular blend was inspired by the kingdom of Orlais from the Dragon Age series!

  • Teas to Sip While Reading Spoiler Alert by Olivia Dade
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    Teas to Sip While Reading Spoiler Alert by Olivia Dade

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    I used to be adamant about my distaste for Romance novels. I knew them as the Harlequin Romance novels my mom used to devour alongside Junior Mints on a quiet Sunday afternoon or the bodice rippers one of my friends used to have her nose buried in during high school lunches. I thought they were an inferior literary genre– simple, formulaic, and full of smut, which I did not want to read; in hindsight, I think that perspective was deeply rooted in internalized misogyny. Then a few years back, I read the Flat Share by Beth O’Leary, and my appreciation for Romance literature started to blossom. I’m still learning my preferences when it comes to the genre, so my experience is hit and miss, and unfortunately, my most recent venture into the genre with Spoiler Alert by Olivia Dade was a big miss.

    In 280 words or less…

    Spoiler Alert centers around the fictional fandom of Gods of the Gates, a live-action fantasy TV series that created legions of fans worldwide but started going downhill once the writers and TV producers ran out of source material…not unlike the Game of Thrones series based on George R. R. Martin books. Our main character, April, is a Gods of the Gates superfan, who writes smutty fan fiction about her favorite on-screen couple– Aeneus and Lavinea. Marcus Castor-Rupp, the actor that portrays Aeneus on-screen, secretly writes fan fiction too, and in fact, is April’s longtime online pal and beta reader. The two are unknowingly united after April posts a photograph of herself in Lavinea cosplay on Twitter, and folks criticize her for her weight in true internet fashion. When Marcus sees the post, he decides to invite April to dinner.

    By the end of dinner, Marcus has made the connection that April is one of his closest online friends, but April is none the wiser. Geekery, drama, and steamy bedroom scenes ensue.

    The Review

    I picked up Spoiler Alert for its unabashed love for fan fiction and nerdy pop culture. I, too, loved fan fiction in my youth. I used to devour Sailor Moon fics as a pre-teen, and I used to write awful Lord of the Rings fan fiction when I entered high school. (It was bad, folks. So, so bad.) I also admire cosplay culture and spending the day at comic book conventions. But, beyond this really cool element, the story made me cringe. First, the premise seemed unbelievable. I mean, I understand there is an element of fantasy in romance novels, but it was hard to suspend disbelief for this one– an actor that secretly reads and writes fan fiction for a fandom in which he acts (about the character he plays!) is kind of weird and creepy.

    Also, the characters were the worst. It’s hard to enjoy a romance when I’m just rooting for the couple to break up.

    The way the author introduced April made it seem like she was going to be a confident, plus-size bombshell working in a STEM field– heck yeah! But, in reality, this was not the fat-positive story I thought it was supposed to be. One particular scene that stands out to me and represents about 90% of the conflict in this novel, occurs early in the relationship. In the scene, April and Marcus are discussing the hotel breakfast options. April asks Marcus, who adheres to a strict diet for his career, what’s good for breakfast. Marcus tells her that he usually just has a bowl of oatmeal with fruit. April took that personally and as criticism toward her body, so she gives Marcus the cold shoulder and cuts him out of her life. April exhibits this kind of behavior several times throughout the story– she projects her insecurities onto Marcus, makes assumptions about what he means even though he’s never ambiguous, and then gives him the cold shoulder. I found her behavior to be toxic at best, and I was screaming internally, “Use your damn listening ears, April!”.

    Marcus is only slightly more bearable. He’s kind and sensitive and nurturing and a bunch of other character traits that fall under the list of “THE PERFECT MANTM“. Somehow, all of that kind of makes him boring? Like, don’t get me wrong– I’d totally marry him, but I don’t want to read books about him if that makes sense. He does harbor a deep, dark secret though– he’s dyslexic? Oh, also he’s April’s longtime internet pal, but instead of telling her the truth, he not only hides it from her during their relationship but his online persona essentially ghosts her as well. (I mean, this is actually really bad. Maybe I wouldn’t marry him.)

    I will say, if you love #smutsmutsmut, you will appreciate the steamier scenes in this book. Dade leaves nothing up to the imagination; this stuff seemed explicit. I do not like #smutsmutsmut, however, because I am a prude, so listening to the audiobook version of Spoiler Alert, and having Isabelle Ruther narrate the sex scenes to me as I washed the dishes was mortifying. It made me so, so uncomfortable.

    The Tea

    Writer’s Fuel by Friday Tea

    The name of this blend may be a little on the nose, but I couldn’t resist pairing the Writer’s Blend with a novel about writing fan fiction. The Writer’s Blend is subtle pine smoked black tea that reminds me of many chilly evenings spent writing by the fireside.

    Direwolf from Friday Tea

    Rumor has it, Spoiler Alert is actually a self-insert fan fiction inspired by the Game of Thrones (or rather about a certain actor who stars in Game of Thrones?) Many Goodreads readers seemed to take issue with this, but I’m not particularly bothered by it. However, I cannot unsee the connection to Game of Thrones, which is why I’m pairing Direwolf with this book. It’s a blend that features juniper and sage and shou Puerh, and it tastes like hiking through a rainy pine forest.

  • Teas to Sip While Reading Mayflower: A Story of Courage, Community, and War by Nathaniel Philbrick
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    Teas to Sip While Reading Mayflower: A Story of Courage, Community, and War by Nathaniel Philbrick

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    Like many folks, or at least like the folks in my liberal echo chamber of the internet, I spent a fair amount of 2020 in lockdown unlearning everything I was taught in U.S. History class. Then I was, at some point, struck with the desire to take a somewhat-chronological deep dive into U.S. History and read nonfiction books from an array of perspectives. So, I started my journey with Mayflower: A Story of Courage, Community, and War by Nathaniel Philbrick. It’s a nonfiction novel that explores the national myth of the Pilgrims landing at Plymouth Rock and the first Thanksgiving, the relationship between Native Americans and English colonists that degraded over time, and inevitably the deadly wars such as the Pequot War and King Philip’s War.

    In hindsight, I probably should have chosen a book about Jamestown, but I forgot that was the first English colony until several pages into Mayflower. Or better yet, I should have started with 1491: New Revelations of the Americas Before Columbus by Charles C. Mann, which presents evidence that the Indigenous peoples of the Americas were more numerous and more culturally and technologically sophisticated than is taught in school. Yet, here we are, caught ‘tween decks with 102 Mayflower passengers, sailing for months across 3,000 miles of the ocean toward a land unknown to most Europeans of the time.

    I Love to Hate the Puritans.

    It is a love that stretches all the way back to 10th grade U.S. Literature thanks to The Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne and the Crucible by Arthur Miller. The Puritans…are a real piece of work.

    If you’re not familiar, or if your history is a little rusty, the Puritans were Protestants in the 16th and 17th centuries, who followed the teaching of John Calvin. They sought to purify the Church of England of Roman Catholic practices, and they believed salvation or damnation was predetermined by God, so there was nothing a person could do in life to change that outcome.

    The Pilgrims (of Plymouth Rock fame) were a sect of Puritans who, instead of preoccupying themselves with purifying the Church of England, separated from the church and created their own congregation to meet their pious, spiritual standards. This was illegal in England, so Pilgrims were persecuted (like, properly persecuted– imprisoned or executed), and to escape persecution, the Pilgrims initially fled to Leiden, Holland. Despite being able to practice their religion in peace in their new home, the Pilgrims found themselves losing their English identity, so they sought a new land where they could carve out their own New England and plant their roots and church.

    Don’t get me wrong, the Pilgrims were on stolen land and they brought deadly diseases, but I found myself fascinated by this group all the same. They mostly kept to themselves, and the strength of their community was admirable. The ways they held each other accountable– to ensure each member of the church worshipped God properly– was interesting, too. After church sermons, the Pilgrims would sit around and listen to inspired lectures about religious doctrine from nearly everyone in the congregation for HOURS. (When did they get any work done?) Also, despite their religiosity, the Pilgrims insisted on the separation of church and state. Even their marriages were secular because the Bible says nothing about a minister being involved in wedding ceremonies.

    And so, while the Pilgrims may not have been the actual worst, their degenerate spawn (their words, not mine) as well as the non-separatist Puritans that emigrated afterward were. Like, literally, the worst. Ironically, the Puritans fled to America to escape religious persecution only to turn around and become the persecutors themselves. After settling in America, they forced all non-European Puritans living in their colony to assimilate into their religion. Or, they shunned neighboring colonies of Quakers. Or they actively persecuted folks like Thomas Morton, whose Anglican practices made him look like a heathen pagan to the Puritans.

    Not to mention, they monopolized the purchase and sale of Native American land thereby cheating Native Americans out of free and fair trade.

    Also, the genocide and enslavement of the Native Americans.

    Like, it’s absolutely stunning how a group of godly people can be so inhumane and awful. And, it becomes even more horrifying when predestination is factored in because then all of their actions become “God’s will”, and I think that says a lot about the Puritans (and why I love to hate them), the founding of Colonial America, and eventually the founding of the United States.

    Even though the birth of the United States was more than a century away, some of the nations defining qualities began to develop (for better or for worse).

    For example, the Pilgrims shifted away from communal farming to farming their own, private plots of land, where they were permitted to keep their own produce. Crop yields grew exponentially, which paved the way for capitalism. We also see the beginnings of American individualism and frontiersmanship in people like Benjamin Church (Captain of the first Ranger force in America). American frontiersmen became invaluable during the United States’ westward expansion but also contributed to the continued genocide of the Native Americans. And, who could disregard the burgeoning intolerance of different cultures and especially religions, which began to bubble at Plymouth colony?

    The Puritans were advocates for public education though, so there is that.

    I have a hard time wrapping my head around how anyone survived back then. Especially before the invention of electric heat.

    At the time of writing this, I’m wearing a sweatshirt, and I’m buried under two blankets. I also have a newly insulated attic. And even though the heater is running, I’m still cold. The Pilgrims arrived in North America at the start of winter during the Little Ice Age, and somehow they survived. (Also, one of the Pilgrims notes that the Native Americans they first meet are hardly wearing clothes. This can’t be true, can it?)

    I also wonder how many calories did these people eat? Their only mode of transportation in America was walking the trails between settlements, which could take days to traverse. Not to mention, they always seem to be at war or farming or clearing forests or building houses. Seriously, how did they stay sufficiently fed? (Especially since the Pilgrims sucked at hunting and fishing, and they did not have livestock in the early years of the colony).

    And don’t even get me started about sailing across the ocean at night before the invention of radar. It’s bananas.

    Philbrick addresses biases and does a decent job of balancing perspectives about Native American and colonist relations.

    Before beginning the story, Philbrick addresses that most of what we know of 17th century New England comes from the English. And even though in recent decades, anthropologists, archaeologists, and folklorists have increased the world’s understanding of Native American culture and history during this time, Philbrick’s reconstruction is predominantly pulled from the written histories and letters of the Puritans. He is more sympathetic to the Pilgrims than perhaps a Native American historian might be, but Philbrick doesn’t romanticize the colonization of Plymouth, either. He is critical of the Pilgrims and their descendants where it is undeniably due.

    Mayflower attempts to bridge the gap between what is usually taught about the founding of the United States.

    In school, we tend to learn about Jamestown and Plymouth Rock, but then we fast forward 100-150 years to the eve of the American Revolution. Considering the book is called Mayflower, Philbrick actually spends most of the book focusing on the events that occurred after the arrival at Plymouth Rock. He writes about the relative peacefulness that lasted for about 50 years between the Pilgrims and their Native American neighbors and allies, the Pokanoket (later the Wampanoag). But, readers also learn about the Pequot War, which ended after about 700 Pequots had been killed or sold into slavery in the Caribbean, and ultimately created a power vacuum among Native American Nations in the region (also, let’s file “creating power vacuums” under defining characteristics of the United States). Philbrick also writes about the “degenerate” children of the Pilgrims, who in adulthood, failed to maintain diplomacy with their Native American allies, exploited the purchase and sale of Native American land to serve their new and booming colonist population, and executed three members of the Wampanoags following a rigged trial. All of this eventually led to another war– King Philip’s War– which lasted 14 months, created conflict from Massachusetts all the way up to Maine, and ended after thousands of Native Americans and colonists died.


    Overall, I thought Mayflower: A Story of Courage, Community, and War was a worthwhile read. Philbrick’s writing is approachable and engaging, even for folks who just have a passing interest in the topic of the Mayflower and the colony at Plymouth (like myself). His narrative is rich with description as he recreates life in 17th century Massachusetts, and he inserts anecdotes (pulled from the letters and journals) throughout to help readers connect with the colonists and Native Americans from the past on a more human level. I did slog through some of the chapters about King Philip’s War, but I suspect that had more to do with my interest in war strategy. (Although, looking back, my eyes glazed over when learning about King Philip’s War in AP U.S. History in the days of yore as well…).

    Books & Tea

    It feels kind of weird to pair a tea with a non-fiction book. And I imagine depending on the topic, this may border on inappropriate. But, what the heck, I’m committed. If you pick up Mayflower by Nathaniel Philbrick, may I suggest pairing it with the following teas:

    Seaworthy from Friday Afternoon Tea

    Seaworthy is a blend of aloe vera flesh, white tea, blue cornflowers, and elderberries. It offers a thick and luscious mouthfeel but delicate vegetal, floral, and peppery aromas. I recommend cold steeping this one to draw out the sweetness of the white tea.

    Cliff by the Sea from Friday Afternoon Tea

    Cliff by the Sea is a blend of green tea, orange peel, apple, pear, wakame seaweed, and sea buckthorn berry. It tastes like the ocean breeze, but the fruit keeps it from wading too far into brine and seaweed territory.

About the Blogger

My name is Jackie, and I am a millennial / mother / Michigander / blogger / wannabe runner / accountant / local library enthusiast / gamer, kinda. This is a personal blog, which means I’m not entirely certain what you’ll find here, but it will definitely not show up on the first page of Google search results.