10 Things I Love and Loathe about Romance in Books

Lovethings I love about romance in books

  1. I love when the protagonist falls in love with their best friend, like Ron and Hermione in the Harry Potter series.
  2. I love when relationships develop organically and over time, like Cath and Levi in Fangirl (also, like Ron and Hermione)
  3. I love when relationships in books aren’t just about passion and obsession. When that fizzles out, what do the characters do? What do they talk about?
  4. I love stories about unrequited love, but they turn me in to an emotional wreck. I’ll never be able to part with Ellen Wittlinger’s Hard Love because it’s the only book that has ever made me cry.
  5. I love stories about falling in love for the first time– that mixture of elation and vulnerability and how it’s scary that someone can make another feel all those things and also it’s scary to think about losing the person that can make someone feel all those things.


things I loathe about romance in books

  1. I loathe insta-love because it’s cliché and unrealistic and unhealthy. It bothers me that these kinds of books dominate the market because who can relate to them? What kind of expectations are we creating?
  2. I loathe love triangles also because they are cliché, but mostly because the protagonist NEVER picks the love interest I would, so either there is something wrong with me or there is something wrong with the protagonist. (I’m betting it’s not me…) Also, I think it’s weak character development.
  3. I loathe the brooding bad boy with a heart of gold. He’s brooding because he’s supposed to be angsty and complex, but usually he has the personality of a wet blanket and has nothing in common with the protagonist.
  4.  I loathe when the love interest does things like sneak into the protagonist’s bedroom uninvited to watch the protagonist sleep. That’s not romantic. That’s creepy and totally warrants a restraining order.
  5. I loathe when a protagonist’s love interest is a supernatural being that is as interested in feasting on them as they are canoodling with them. See number four.

What do you love or loathe about romance in books?

Top Ten Tuesday is hosted by The Broke and the Bookish and poses the question “What are ten things you like or dislike about romance in books”?

6 Comments on “10 Things I Love and Loathe about Romance in Books

  1. I loathe the trope in romance books where one of the characters is totally aloof but so interesting to the other character because God, sometimes it would be nice to see someone fall in love with an emotional wreck. (But maybe that’s just a reflection of myself… whoops) Also I am not a fan of people in books calling their lover their best friend because (also a reflection of myself) it’s not healthy to find all of that in one person.

    BUT I DO LOVE… the stuff that you have listed. Best friends who fall in love and make it work is nice.


  2. Is it bad if all of the items on your loathe list make me think of a specific book? Still not sure how it became a fad…

    Great list nonetheless!


    • Nope. I had some very specific books in mind as well when I came up with the list. It’s kind of disappointing that they have become so common.


  3. So many great things to love about romance in books! I just love kissing. Ha ha … One thing I do hate is love triangles, BUT sometimes they can be done in a good way. SOMETIMES. Other times, they’re just horrible. I mean, how many love triangles actually exist in real life? And yet it seems like every book with romance (ok, ALMOST every book) has some kind of triangle going on. Great list!


    • If you know of books with love triangles that were well done, I’d love to know a few of them! I have yet to read a book with a love triangle that I enjoy 😦


  4. I especially agree with you when it comes to relationships not just being about passion and obsession. I often find myself thinking okay, so you’re hot for each other – good for you – but do you have ANYTHING in common at all? I prefer it when the characters get to know each other before they fall in love.


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